I don’t know what I expected motherhood to be, but it definitely wasn’t this.
For the umpteenth time, I am a student, and this time the teacher is this baby who can only manage a few words.
My daughter has completely transformed how I think about time and readiness. She is a total ball of joy. Right now, she’s fully mobile, crawling and rolling all over the apartment.
What amazes me most is how she has rewritten my relationship with time. Because the truth is, there is no rushing with a baby.
Before, I could wake up, get ready, and head out the door without much thought. That isn’t possible anymore. Now, I have to ensure that I pack the diaper bag with a change of clothes, a blanket, diapers, and wipes. Then I have to get baby girl ready, get myself ready, and just when I think we are finally leaving, she needs to eat or needs a poopy-diaper change.
Changing Pace
I’ve always been someone who stays busy. For a long time, extreme productivity felt like my most important and attractive attribute.
Forward movement needed to be explicit:
A tangible goal.
A big achievement.
Something visible… and it needed to happen fast.
But watching my daughter has taught me something I didn’t realize I desperately needed to learn: Everything happens when you’re ready.
And ready is when you decide to take a step. To make that move.
She didn’t rush to roll over. She didn’t rush to crawl. She isn’t rushing to walk. Each milestone arrives exactly when she is ready for it. And somehow, that simple truth has completely grounded me during a season of personal uncertainty.
The Myth of Feeling Behind
We spend so much of our adulthood feeling behind.
Behind on goals.
Behind on plans.
Behind on the version of ourselves we thought we’d be by now.
We push, strive, compare (especially in this social media age), and worry that we’re not moving fast enough. Yet every day, my daughter reminds me that growth doesn’t respond to pressure. It unfolds in its own time.
Maybe, in this season, that’s the ultimate lesson she was sent to teach me. What is meant for you is not late. Sometimes, you’re just developing the posture or the environment that will facilitate it in the next chapter.
Everything happens when you’re ready, and readiness comes from the growing itself.
So for now, keep building for your next chapter and give yourself some grace.
I’d love to hear from you. When was a time in your life when you felt behind, only to realize later that you were exactly on time?
Let me know in the comments.
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